On a daily basis I’m surprised that I can’t see the age of the women I wish Happy Birthday on Facebook. Most men put theirs. There is no need to be embarrassed!
We all go through the same life phases. We all live through the same existential challenges. But when it comes to age it is as if half the population uses the ostrich strategy and buries their head in the sand.
My strategy is to be proud of my age and my experience. I’m inspired by Nike’s slogan: If You Have a Body, You’re an Athlete. We can all contribute with our own mix of energy and experience. The experience curve crosses the energy curve at the age between 35 years and 40 years. That’s when most people are the most productive. Beyond this life phase you have to build your own existential resilience and secure your own continued strength, both mentally and physically.
“Age is a question of mind over matter. If you don’t mind it doesn’t matter.”
With a life span expectancy, which is now often projected to be 100 years, you need to continually replenish your reservoir. There is a fine line between pride and vanity. I have met numerous Late Bloomers. Women, whose children have left the nest and who therefore are now full of renewed energy and ambition and ready to conquer the world. In order to experience relaxed readiness we must accept the actual state of affairs. We must look the monster into the eye. There is nothing to be embarrassed about.
During a one-year Meaningful Leadership program that I followed back in 2003 I met a lady who told me the following: “During my whole life I’ve been a wife, a mother and a grandmother. Now I just want to be Karen”. I deeply respect that attitude. She was ready to take on the world as herself. So why not stand up for yourself? Become the one you are. Eliminate wishful thinking and face reality.
Recently I have had the privilege and joy of participating in a couple of weddings. At one of those the groom told his wife-to-be that he would love her beyond menopause. Certainly a strong and controversial statement since there is a sort of taboo around menopause.
In this situation as well as in many others I remember the old saying: Age is a question of mind over matter. If you don’t mind it doesn’t matter.
So there is no reason not to put your birth year on Facebook.